Things to GIVE UP to be successful!

2018 年伊始,转载一篇 Medium.com 上的文章,希望大家在设定新年企划时参考。作者 Zdravko Cvijetic 是一位时间管理大师,在网络上很有影响力,感兴趣的朋友可以关注他的博客 zerotoskill.com。

Somebody once told me the definition of hell: “On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become. — Anonymus

Sometimes, to become successful, we do not need to add more things, we need to give up on some of them.

Even though each one of us has a different definition of success, there are certain things that are universal, which, if you give up on them, you will be more successful.

Some of them you can give up today, while it might take a bit longer for others.

1. Give Up On The Unhealthy Lifestyle

Take care of your body. It is the only place you have to live. — Jim Rohn

If you want to achieve anything in life, everything starts here. First, you have to take care of your health, and there are only two things you need to keep in mind:

  1. Healthy Diet
  2. Physical Activity

Small steps, but you will thank yourself one day.

2. Give Up The Short-term Mindset

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. — Mae West

Successful people set long-term goals, and they know that these aims are merely the result of short-term habits that they need to do every day.

These healthy habits should not be something you do; they should be something you are.

There is a difference between: “Working out to have summer body” and “Working out because that is who you are.”

3. Give Up Playing Small

Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others. – Marianne Williamson

If you never try and take great opportunities, or allow your dreams to become realities, you will never realize your true potential.

Moreover, the world will never benefit from what you could have achieved.

So voice your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and certainly don’t be afraid to succeed.

4. Give Up Your Excuses

It is not about the cards you are dealt, but how you play the hand. – Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.

Realizing that you are entirely responsible for what happens next in your life, is both frightening and exciting.

However, it is the only way that you can reach the success because excuses limit and prevent us from growing personally and professionally.

Own your life; no one else will.

5. Give Up The Fixed Mindset

The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.  ― Robert Greene, Mastery

In a fixed mindset, people believe that their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits and that talent alone creates success — without effort. They are wrong.

Moreover, successful people know this. They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change their perception so that it can benefit their lives.

Remember, who you are today, it is not whom you have to be tomorrow.

6. Give Up Believing In The “Magic Bullet.”

Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better. — Émile Coué

Overnight success is a myth.

Successful people know that making small continuous improvement every day, will be compounded over time, and give them desired results.

That why you should plan for the future, but focus on the day that’s ahead of you, and improve just 1%.

7. Give Up Your Perfectionism

Shipping beats perfection. — Kahn Academy’s Development Mantra

Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how much we try.

Fear of failure (or even fear of success) often prevents us from taking action and putting our creation out there in the world. However, many opportunities will be lost if we wait for things to be right.

So, “ship,” and then improve (that 1%).

8. Give Up Multi-tasking

You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.  ― Winston S. Churchill

Successful people know this. That is why they choose one thing and then beat it into submission. No matter what, a business idea, a conversation, or a workout.

Being fully present and committed to one task, is indispensable.

9. Give Up Your Need to Control Everything

Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us. — Epictetus, Stoic philosopher

Differentiating these two is important.

Detach from the things you cannot control, and focus on the ones you can, and know that sometimes, the only thing you will be able to monitor is your attitude towards something.

Moreover, remember, nobody can be frustrated while saying “Bubbles” in an angry voice.

10. Give Up Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support Your Goals

He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly. — James Allen

Successful people know this that to accomplish their goals, they will have to say NO to tasks, activities, and demands from your friends, family, and colleagues.

On a short-term, you might sacrifice a bit of instant gratification, but when your goals come to fruition, it will be worth it.

11. Give Up The Toxic People

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. – Jim Rohn

People we spend the most time with, add up to whom we become.

There are less ambitious people, and there are more ambitious people than us. If you spend time with the ones that are less driven than you, your average will go down, and with it your success.

However, if you spend time with people more advanced than you, no matter how challenging that might be, you will be more successful.

Take a look at around yourself, and see if you need to make any changes.

12. Give Up Your Need To Be Liked

The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing important. — Oliver Emberton

Think of yourself as a market niche.

There will be many people that like that niche, but there will be individuals who do not, and no matter what you do, you will not be able to make an entire market like you.

This is entirely natural, and there’s no need to do anything to justify yourself.

The only thing you can do is continue being authentic, and know that growing number of “haters” means that you are doing important things.

13. Give Up Your Dependency on The Social Media & Television

The trouble is, you think you have time. — Jack Kornfield

Impulsive web browsing and television watching is a disease of today’s society.

These two should never be an escape from your life or your goals.

Unless your goals depend on either, you should minimize (or eliminate) your dependency on them. Moreover, direct that time towards things that can enrich your life.

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iPhone 十年与「自我迭代」

2007 年 1 月 9 日注定是历史上不凡的一天——乔布斯在旧金山时间上午 9 点 43 分于 Moscone Center 举行的 Macworld 大会上揭开了第一代 iPhone 的面纱。直到十年后的今天,我依然能忆起那一刻捧着黑色 MacBook 追图文直播时的怦然。iPhone 的出现如同鹅卵石落入一潭死水,泛起的涟漪改变了周遭的一切,它转变了人们听歌、上网、沟通、娱乐、出行、支付等一系列生活方式…

提到 iPhone 的伟大,多数人会归结为颠覆式的创新。初代 iPhone 的诞生,打破了当时智能手机约定俗成的外观和功能,加入了多指触控等人性化设计。为 iPhone 孵化的 App Store,开创了应用程序商店的先河,也催生了众多产业的变革。

初代 iPhone 与同时代「智能手机」对比
初代 iPhone 与同时代「智能手机」对比

当我们再细细回顾过往 10 年,你会发现 iPhone 并没有一闯入我们的世界就捣毁一切,它是以一种润物细无声的方式影响着我们。当把初代 iPhone 和最新的 iPhone 7 Plus 放到一起时,你会发现他们是如此的相似而又深刻地不同。我曾有幸接触到一位资深工程师,他和乔布斯共事过多年,也参与过几次重要的发布会彩排。当被问到 iPhone 的制胜法宝是什么时,他用了一个生僻的英文单词来概括,ITERATION(迭代)。

初代 iPhone 和 iPhone 7 Plus 对比

那么什么是「迭代」呢?百科给出的解释如下:

迭代是重复反馈过程的活动,其目的通常是为了逼近所需目标或结果。每一次对过程的重复称为一次“迭代”,而每一次迭代得到的结果会作为下一次迭代的初始值。

简单来说,「迭代」就是在原有基础上进行不断的升级更新,它与「颠覆」不同,重视传承,是一种螺旋式上升的过程。

「迭代」意味着克制。在安卓阵营不断拉高硬件参数的竞赛中,许多厂商动不动就搬出千万像素和多核处理器的营销嚼头。而 iPhone 看似非常保守,曾多年止步于 800 万像素的摄像头配置。事实上,iPhone 通过不断提升成像技术、软件功能、镜头工艺等多维度迭代,让摄影摄像的质量稳居智能手机排行榜前列。iPhone 的进化史也是手机摄影的发展史,是 iPhone 让「The best camera is the one in your pocket(最好的相机就在你口袋里)」这句话深入人心。

「迭代」同时意味着化繁为简。毕加索晚年的作品无不体现出开悟后追求极简的风格。在取舍之间,艺术回归本质。我特别欣赏大师的这组牛画,尤其是最后那寥寥几笔,勾勒出公牛形象惟妙惟肖,丝毫不逊色于左侧几幅。这组画很好地演绎了 iPhone 化繁为简的「迭代」过程。变轻、变薄、更便携、无累赘,这是贯穿 iPhone 十年演变的基本路线,让如今的 iPhone 浑然天成。正如达芬奇曾说过的,「The simplicity is the ultimate sophistication(简约是复杂的最终形式)」。

谈了很多关于 iPhone 的,不如我们将视角转向自身。仔细想想,我们每个人又何尝不是一个智能移动产品呢?我们的身体躯干是我们的硬件,我们的心智模式代表操作系统,而我们的技能知识则等同于可交互的信息和应用程序。优势心理学发现,人成功的捷径是将时间和精力集中投入在发展天赋才干上,长期打磨历练便能成就个人优势,进而获得成功。许多原地踏步的人往往好高骛远或找不清方向。他们寄希望于通过洗心革面实现自我蜕变,恰不知一夜吃成大胖子的「大跃进」后患无穷。「惟课」相信,成功属于那些着眼自身天赋才干,明晰自我目标并克制务实的人,他们会获得自我迭代后的常青。

当我们再翘首期盼 iPhone 更新换代之时,不妨也问问自己,今年我迭代了吗?!